In a final dose, here are the answers to the rest of your questions from last week.
Kim – Are you going to have a big family or is this it? Or is it too soon to say? Where would you travel to if you could go anywhere?
We are pretty sure we’re done at two kids, but are not making that decision “final” at this point.
Travel: Being that I’m 8 weeks into newbornhood, I’d take anywhere that’s quiet with a comfy bed right now.
But..I would LOVE to go to Greece and Cyprus. I went to Cyprus for six weeks as a teenager and had an amazing time, but only got to spend one night in Greece on the way back from Cyprus. My family is from Greece, and they’re both very romantic places, so I’d LOVE to go with my hubby!!
(I am now drifting off to dreamy-vacation-not-waking-up-in-the-middle-of-the-night-to-feed-a-baby land…)
Jessica – How’d you get into blogging? And how did it become a career?
I first became familiar with blogging when Ali was a year old through other Mommy friends of mine that blogged. I considered trying it, then thought that no one would be interested in my life. Then I realized that I was interested in reading about their lives, so maybe someone would be interested in mine, as well. Nearly immediately after I started, I was completely hooked. I loved the social outlet that it gave me, the relationships available through it, and the affirmation that I got via writing my thoughts.
Blogging is definitely not a career for me. I make tiny bits of money here and there, Ali gets fun things in the mail for review/giveaways periodically, and I have gotten to go on a couple of trips due to blogging, but certainly not nearly enough to justify all of the time I put into it. Plus, I’m very cautious about what I will promote and advertise on my blog, and how much of my blog’s space I will devote to that sort of thing – I’m not willing to sacrifice the purpose and integrity of my blog to make money. I blog because I love it, and anything else that comes from it is just icing on the cake.
Blair – Is it weird to know so many people read about your daily life and have never met you?
Not too weird. I think of my blog readers in four groups: 1. People I don’t know in real life but that I am friends with because they interact with me on my blog, 2. People I don’t know and that don’t interact, 3. People I know in real life that interact on my blog, and 4. People in real life that don’t interact. I think the weirdest group for me are the people that I know in real life that don’t interact. Anytime one of these people tell me that they read my blog, I immediately start thinking, “Okay, so what all does that mean that they know about me? And what have I written that might have offended them?”
— Because that’s how I roll. Paranoid.
(Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE for people to read my blog – I just like to know that they’re reading, which somehow makes me less paranoid about all the things I’m potentially saying wrong.)
Amanda – if you had to give one piece of marriage advice to a brand new wife, what would it be?
I put a lot of thought into this, and I think my one piece of advice would be this: Always make it your priority and goal to constantly seek out ways to please and spoil each other. Be “that” couple that argues over who gets to pick where to eat dinner – “You pick!”, “No, you pick!”. If you’re both always doing everything you can to make the other person happy, then you’ll rarely find yourself fighting.
Oh – and one more piece (one piece is SO confining!!) – don’t allow yourself to store up bitternesses in your heart toward your husband or keep “score” of who owes who. Let it go, forgive, and move on. Remember that you’re not perfect either, and focus on the wonderful things about your husband instead.
Val – At what age or maturity level will you have Ali (and her tummy) go to church services with you? It’s one of my great fears of having kids. My church has childcare and activities for the kids during services, but I worry that they won’t learn how to behave during services if they are used to having fun with the other kids during services.
I’ve been concerned about that too. But also, I see a positive side to Children’s Church. Up until I was in Junior High, we went to a VERY small church with no Children’s church, so I sat in ‘big church’ from the time I was out of the nursery. However, I learned to “be bored” during sermons from being a small child in Church and not understanding most of it. Even though our Pastor now is extremely interesting and easy to listen to, I have to actively work at paying attention (and usually take notes to help in that) because of that subconscious perspective. I’m hoping that maybe Ali won’t have that same bored preconceived notion of church since she’s not starting out in “big church” when she’s WAY too young to comprehend it.
But to answer you question specifically, I’m not sure. Probably somewhere in the tween years.
blueviolet – I need to know which conferences you’re headed to this year so I know where I can see ya again!
I don’t know if I’ll make it to any this year … I’m not brave enough to come to a conference with baby in tow, and my other option is much worse: a breast-pump in tow!! Yikes.
Leslie – I am curious about your (what appears to be) great time management skills? How do you do it? As I am completely jealous. I mean, you care for a newborn, have school for Ali, and still manage to blog regularly. I am so jealous, as I am barely able to care for my newborn as Ella goes to preschool daily.
1. I let certain things slide (and panic about them regularly). My house doesn’t stay perfectly clean or neat all the time. My office would probably horrify you, because it certainly horrifies me. Oh – and my car. It’s an embarrassment of a mess, thanks to a lot of help from Ali.
2. (This one is a guilty admission…) Since I’ve been working two accounting jobs during naptimes throughout my stay-at-home Mom career, My husband has gifted me with a housecleaning service that comes every three weeks to do deep cleaning for me. But now that I’m only working one job as of Noah’s birth, I feel a bit more guilty than I used to feel about the housecleaning expense.
3. I cook one big meal a week on Monday night, and we eat it Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday nights. We eat out or “scrounge” the other nights. I’m able to get away with this meal plan because I’ve been blessed with a husband that is not only okay with leftovers, but actually LOVES “experimenting” with them in freakish ways (he’s plans on guest posting some of his odder creations at some point).
4. Ali still naps. And naps well. I mean REALLY well – like 3+ hours. That’s when I do all of my work, blogging, blog reading, and anything else I need to get done on the computer.
5. I live in a constant state of panic over my ever-growing-never-shrinking to-do list.
Phew – I have now answered every question asked of me! But feel free to ask any follow-up questions in the comments – I’ll answer them there! This has been a fun experiment – hopefully it was interesting for you as well. If it was, I’ll have to do it again sometime!